tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post8630271150290071517..comments2023-10-31T05:07:19.353-04:00Comments on Delenda est Carthago: Freaks & Geeks: Carded and DiscardedDr. Φhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14086783503820477029noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-86617485694202622682011-03-26T03:53:18.964-04:002011-03-26T03:53:18.964-04:00Trumwill: Affirmation, exactly.
And here is some...Trumwill: Affirmation, exactly.<br /><br />And here is something I hadn't remarked on before: ironically, being married makes the risk/reward ratio <em>worse</em>, not better. Because assuming that we're not actively trying to commit adultery, then the "benefit" of the interaction is likely something innocuous. Whereas in addition to <em>not</em> being affirmed, we run the added risk that the female will loudly proclaim (or subtly imply) that the <em>real</em> reason we smiled / said hello / asked for a pencil is that <em>we're hitting on her</em>. Seriously, who needs that aggravation over a damn pencil?Dr. Φhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086783503820477029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-6416326098240894322011-03-25T14:02:58.994-04:002011-03-25T14:02:58.994-04:00I think for me, the fear is hypothetical rejection...I think for me, the fear is hypothetical rejection. Nevermind that I am married, that they might be too young or too old for me, or that they might be married. At least a little part of me likes to think that if circumstances were different, I would be affirmed by them. Or, at least, not completely rejected. <br /><br />Interacting with an attractive woman, no matter how innocently, opens you up to that hypothetical rejection. That complete lack of affirmation. And for the older and married among us, the memories of what it was like when we weren't secure in marriages.<br /><br />OR you can sidestep that entirely and simply interact with people whose approval you are entirely indifferent to even on a hypothetical level.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-10451946326058612342011-03-22T11:21:05.889-04:002011-03-22T11:21:05.889-04:00Samson: Good question!
My best guess is that I a...Samson: Good question!<br /><br />My best guess is that I am emotionally invested in any given interaction with an attractive woman in a way that I am not with an unattractive woman or a man. Why this should be true, given that the interactions are, at the point in my life cycle, non-sexual in nature and (I believe) intent, is beyond me. But I think it has less to do with the probability of failure than it does with the cost of failure.<br /><br /><a href="http://hitcoffee.net/index.php/file/2560" rel="nofollow">Trumwill</a> wrote on this recently.Dr. Φhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086783503820477029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-25573084526917636712011-03-21T15:13:49.529-04:002011-03-21T15:13:49.529-04:00I’m 42, and I’m still afraid of beautiful women
W...<i>I’m 42, and I’m still afraid of beautiful women</i><br /><br />Why?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com