tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post4637345056338563718..comments2023-10-31T05:07:19.353-04:00Comments on Delenda est Carthago: Mental DeletionsDr. Φhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14086783503820477029noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-88364147229964942832009-05-25T23:08:13.471-04:002009-05-25T23:08:13.471-04:00Deletions usually aren't an issue for me since I d...Deletions usually aren't an issue for me since I don't have many occasion to fraternize with young women. I presently don't work with any, and all my other friends are from places where my wife and I go as a couple. In the case above, the cheerleader had been to my office and surely seen the pictures of my wife and children festooning my desk. Plus I wear a ring on the correct finger. So they weren't exactly a secret.Burkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14252946969701576139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29763791.post-10897678045844561332009-05-25T05:48:25.768-04:002009-05-25T05:48:25.768-04:00"The possibility" being key here. Given the nature..."The possibility" being key here. Given the nature of the interactions you've described, I'd be surprised if that's what she was doing. I don't know her, so I could be wrong.<br /><br />I used to be really bad about deletions back before I was married (before my wife entered the picture at all, really). I don't think that it was really intentional. But I found myself getting into situations where I didn't mention the significant other until it was suddenly too late to mention her. This problem solved itself with the wedding ring. Both because I don't feel presumptuous bringing up her existence and because there is something less awkward about saying "my wife" compared to "my girlfriend."<br /><br />Anyway, as I've gotten older I've come to understand aloofness. As aggravating as it was, it probably saved me from embarrassment more than once. And sometimes I think I've attributed aloofness when it was really more the case that they were treating me not dissimilarly to the way that I treated female-types who I didn't happen to notice because I didn't have much reason to. The sticking point being that howevermuch the attractive-types didn't notice me, I noticed them all to easily...trumwillhttp://hitcoffee.netnoreply@blogger.com