Napoleon Dynamite: Well, nobody's going to go out with *me*!
Pedro: Have you asked anybody yet?
Napoleon Dynamite: No, but who would? I don't even have any good skills.
Pedro: What do you mean?
Napoleon Dynamite: You know, like nunchuku skills, bow hunting skills, computer hacking skills... Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.
Too true. But choosing a skill is tricky. You want something that girls find sexually attractive (so don't bother learning to play the oboe) and at which you might develop a competitive advantage with other males (i.e. not football).
Φ's recommendation: figure skating.
My daughters started practicing figure skating in earnest about three years ago, and eventually I started coming along for the ride. (We found it cost-effective to buy a "family pass" to the rink, and I'm the kind of person who is determined to get his money's worth. ) I never personally took any lessons, but I studied people who looked like they knew what they were doing, and I eventually became reasonably competent. Not great, but good enough to have a stranger compliment me and invite me to the rink’s pickup hockey game.
But here’s the thing: lots of people go ice skating occasionally, and it’s an activity that girls will often do by themselves or in groups of other girls. So it’s an environment that allows someone who works at it to look really good by comparison in front of women who may not be attached. And . . . these girls will notice you. It’s a physical activity, and high-speed backwards crossovers look much harder than they actually are. You will feel the attention to your status display.
Of course, this isn’t a substitute for game. You will still need to make an approach and show yourself not to be a complete dork. But you will do so already having made a favorable impression.
- Buy your own skates. Rental skates aren’t broken into the shape of your foot and will give you sloppy performance. A quality pair can be had for under $200.
- Learn in hockey skates. Yes, hockey skates are designed for speed rather than agility, and without a toe pick most of the advanced figure skating moves like jumps and spins will be impossible. But these limitations are more than compensated for by greater comfort. Figure skates have pointed toes for better control, but it hurts to have your toes shoved into that point. Hockey skates, in contrast, have big round toes. I suffered figure skates for years before I tried hockey skates on whim. I never went back.
- Don’t actually play hockey. First, the guys that already play hockey are bigger and meaner than you are. Second, the only girls who watch hockey are already in a relationship with a hockey player or somebody who drags them to games. So they’re not your intended audience.