On a serious note, does anybody have any data on the relative prevalence over time of post-college-age men and women still living at home? ONN is obviously poking fun at what has become a cultural stereotype: slacker twenties guy living in his parents’ basement. But has the number of such guys really grown over the last thirty years compared to the number of girls?
That said, this is one double standard I kind of get. I don’t have any sons, but if I did, I’m pretty sure my baseline expectation of them would be that, post-college, they should be making their way in the world. But my daughters? In theory, they can stay until they get married.
In theory. In practice, I can see all sorts of obstacles that would need to be overcome. First, domestic responsibilities. Mom and Dad really don’t want to be cleaning up after you when you’re 23. In fact, we don’t really want to be nagging you to clean up after yourself either. So be prepared to do your share of cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc., and still keep your room looking presentable.
Second . . . what are your long-term plans, exactly? Waiting to get married isn’t a bad plan, but are you making good use of your time? I recall spending a week at a friend’s house while I was house-hunting in a new city. He had two daughters, the younger of which was still living at home. She might have still been college aged, but she wasn’t attending. She had a part-time job doing something or other that left her with lots of free time. But what bothered me was that she would stay up watching television most of the night. The picture she presented was: slacker. I thought to myself then that I would have a hard time watching my daughter spend her time like this.
On the other hand, I knew (of) another young lady that forewent college and career in favor of staying home until she got married. (Full disclosure: it was the younger sister of the woman I blogged about here, although the video I referenced has since been taken down.) But she had the reputation of being unusually productive doing volunteer work in her church and community. And she did, in fact, get married fairly young.