TraumaCore

Aria Schrecker writes:

Don’t marry someone who has a trump card that supersedes all your values. I think this can be a source of tension in relationships where one person has religious mandates and the other person has ‘preferences’.*

I thought about this advice when reading what has spawned the latest discourse, "American Diner Gothic":

I matched with a girl on Tinder. Her profile listed she/they pronouns, mentioned trauma, and showed her in cosplay.

This isn't even the full list of red flags Mariani will quickly discover, and of course the relationship ends in his heartbreak. But it occurred to me that trauma (or "trauma"), in addition to per se being something that a romantic partner should expect to negotiate, when appearing in a twitter bio also indicates that the girl will likely use it as exactly this kind of trump card. "We're having a disagreement, but I have trauma whereas you only have preferences, so of course I should get my way."

* I will affirm this from the religious side of the prospective relationship as well: Don't marry someone outside +/-1 SD of your own level of religiosity.